12 July 2016

Here's To The Women Buying Their Own Louboutins...

Disclaimer - This post is a little different to my usual...

It's currently 10:20 on a Monday night and I'm writing this in bed, with my Westie Oscar tucked up next to me. My boyfriend Garrad is at work so I'm currently home alone. I have wanted to write this post for such a long time, but have always struggled to put the right words down that best explain my feelings. Then this evening I came across this picture on Pinterest...

Now sadly this gorgeous girl isn't me, but the words could definitely have come from me. This evening I was reminded through social media that so many women these days live off, or are being 'kept' by their other halves, and it's something that frustrates and angers me in equal measure.

I'm 26 years old and I share a house with my boyfriend, but I'm proud to say that we split everything down the middle from bills, to the house work. We're partners in every sense of the word, so naturally we take a share each.

Before I met Garrad I could be reckless with my money, and I spent a lot of it, and I mean a lot of it! But looking back , I am incredibly proud of how I've spent my money and the choices I've made in life. At 22 I bought my first BMW, a car that every morning when I got in it I couldn't quite believe  it was mine and at 24 I bought my very first pair of Louboutins, I still have them even though I've worn them to death. I love them regardless and I'm still very proud of them.

Side note... Please understand when I say there's a difference between receiving gifts from loved ones, and being 'kept' by your other half. Gift giving is a wonderful thing and I've been fortunate enough to receive some beautiful presents, and nothing makes me happier than treating my family and friends whenever I can too. But being 'kept' is a whole other kettle of fish.

When your other half starts paying for your clothes and shoes, pays for your monthly hair and mani-pedi appointment, your half of the luxury holiday etc, that's being 'kept' and something that I can't stand. Where's the dignity in that? Where's the ability to stand on your own two feet and say you know what, I paid for it, and I did it with my own money!

I'm accepting to the fact that I might get a lot of women disagreeing with me on this one, and that's ok. At the end of the day, each to their own. All I know is that I work damn hard for my paycheck each month, and there's no greater feeling than being able to spend it on whatever the hell I want, because I earned it.

There is a secondary, probably far greater aspect to this aside from the spending, and that's the feel good factor of knowing that all those early mornings, long hours and late nights are worth it. One day you'll look back and realise that you made something of yourself, and you did it for you.

I'm fortunate enough to have a good job with a fantastic company and I pride myself on my work ethic (that I 100% got from my Mum). I firmly believe that my hard work and ambition has got me to where I am today. I am by no means as the top of my game, and I have a hell of a long way to go, but I'll get there, and it's lovely knowing that Garrad supports me and is proud of me. I love looking up to women like Michelle Mone, and Karren Brady who worked there butts off to get where they are today, they're partners supported them along the way, but certainly didn't put them there.

So ladies, I guess what I'm trying to say is go out there and grab the world with both hands! Get the career you've always dreamed of and never let anyone have the audacity to say they're 'keeping' you. Anything is obtainable if you're willing to work for it... In short buy your own Louboutins... One day you'll thank me for it... xoxo

** All images courtesy of Pinterest

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