25 February 2020

Entering A New Decade... | Lippy In The City

I hate starting on a negative, but wow, my twenties were HARD… Like really hard, but boy did I learn a lot along the way. A lot can happen during 3,650 rotations of the sun!

I reckon I’ve had more ups and down in the last ten years, than I have in my whole life! Your twenties are such a pivotal decade though, and one where you really learn who you are, what you want out of life, and what you will and won’t stand for. It’s only now, as I’m on the cusp of turning thirty that I fell that I’ve really grasped the direction that I want my life to go in.

I can definitely say I’ve felt pressure in recent years from society to have hit the ‘usual’ milestones in life, such as marriage and kids (I have neither), but that’s ok. I try and tell myself that life would be boring if we all arrived at the same destination at the same time. Plus, there are a lot of things in life that simply can’t be forced, and I’d rather wait fifty years for something to feel right, then rush into something because our modern world tells me that I should before I hit thirty.

A few years ago I wrote a post called 26 Things I've Learnt Over 26 Years... Today I thought it would be fun to go back over them and add in what I've learnt along the way... 

1. Age is only a number. I have to constantly remind myself of this one.
And I still do. Thirty is the new twenty anyway...

2. You don't have to be married with two babies just because everyone around you is. Trust me, there's no rush.
I came pretty close to getting married two years ago, but five weeks out it was cancelled. Marriage is a lifelong commitment so go with your gut on this one, it has to be right and to the right person (obviously). I was completely heartbroken, and I have tried on many an occasion to write about it to gain some sort of closure but the words don’t come easy. One day I hope to get married and have a family of my own, but I’m not prepared to compromise on this one, and you shouldn’t either. 

3. Life happens really quick. Everything can change in a heartbeat so be present in the moment as much as possible.

4. You will never get along with everyone you meet, and that's ok. Learn to be polite and except people for who they are.

5. People will let you down and it's usually from the people you least expected. Shrug it off, and stay positive.
Yep to this too. Move on, trust me, they’re not worth it. 

6. Being a responsible adult is hard. Everyone has bad days, and days when they don't want to clean the bathroom and hang their laundry up. That's normal. 

7. Never feel guilty for having a day devoted to your sofa and Netflix. We all need to recharge our batteries from time to time...

8. Just don't make it a habit. Netflix will always be there, but that awesome opportunity might not. Get up, dress up and show up.

9. Set goals and work towards them. Whether that be a career goal or a handbag goal. Work or save your butt off to get to it. It's vitally important in life to have goals to work towards, it gives us something to focus on.
I’ve got a bit lax with this lately and I truly believe that setting goals gives us something to drive towards. I’ll definitely be setting some new goals for 2020 to get me back on track. 

10. When in doubt, put on a pair of dark jeans, a smart blouse, and killer heels - Winner!

11. Learning what looks good on you and what flatters your figure is life changing.
If it makes you feel a million dollars, and accentuates all the right curves who cares what brand or make it is, how much it cost or who likes it. You're dressing for you, no one else. 

12. Quality over quantity.
EVERY TIME! Learn to invest in pieces that will last you a lifetime. It will save you money in the long-run and will save the world a whole lot of consumerism in the process. 

13. If you’re going to spend big, do it on accessories. Wearing a good watch, pair of shoes, sunglasses and handbag will see you through most situations.

14. Make time for your friends. It takes nothing to send a quick text or email to see how your friends are doing. Plus, it reminds them that your still alive and thinking about them.

15. Make time for your relationships too. Relationships take real work and effort.

16. Never underestimate the importance of loving yourself too.
Self-love is a healer, and it should be a priority for all of us. It can be a five-minute face-mask, journaling or full blown spa day, whatever you need to do to love yourself and give you some 'me time', do it. 

17. Always take your make up off before you go to sleep. If it means keeping wipes on your bedside table, do it!
It’s never too late to start a skincare regime. It doesn’t have to be eighty five products, just a good cleanser, toner, SPF and moisturiser will do the trick and trust me, your skin will thank you. 

18. The realisation that the hangovers get that little bit worse every year...

19. Coffee will get you through almost anything.

20. The older you get, the more a night in with a Chinese and a bottle of wine wins hands-down over a night out 'clubbing'.

21. You only get one family, cherish them. I still believe this whole heatedly.
I lost my Grandad a few years ago and what I wouldn’t give to see him again. Cherish the moments, because they go far too quickly.

22. Learn to utilise that 'magic' hour between 6 and 7 in the morning to organise your day and get bits done whilst everyone else is still sleeping. You'll feel more organised and on top of your schedule before anyone else has even had breakfast.

23. Everyone younger than you will always be classed as 'twelve'... #standard

24. Realise just how much you're worth and never settle for anything less. As above...

25. It's the little things in life that truly matter.

26. Go that extra mile, it's never crowded... Honestly, it never is!

Plus a few more I’ve learnt recently…

27. Less is more… With most things. Keep your circle small, curate your wardrobe, and only keep what you love. 

28. But, love in abundance! We can never have too much love in this world.

29. Nature is truly the greatest healer. Getting out in the fresh air can do wonders for your physical and mental health. I’m not the fittest person by any means, but I walk outside can make me feel so much better in no time.

30. Do it for you! No matter what it is, if it makes you happy, do it. This is the single most important piece of advice I can ever give. If it made you happy, don’t regret it, because at some point it was exactly what you needed.

So, here's to the next decade... I can't wait xoxo

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